Most of us attempt to figure the meaning of our lives. A distinct human nature to preserve self. It is in this process that we are able to fill the gaps of our existence. As events unfold and are individually experienced, we are confronted with contrasting thoughts and feelings. Our worldview takes on a new frame of reference.
A constant in every life’s eventual adventure is CHANGE (surprise!).
It is the uncertainty of details and the resulting end during the process of change that causes conflict in a person. In our engagement with the unknown we are unable to control the entirety of the circumstance hence, we develop fear. Such threatens the very foundation of our existence.
Venturing into an uncharted territory can be daunting. It’s like blindly going for an off-road adventure. But then, we have to keep in mind that life is buoyant. It is deeply rich and involving and whether we like it or not, so are our feelings! Apparently, we will always be in a roller coaster of emotions and contrasting thoughts. At least we know this for a fact (or not). Makes me wonder if other species reckon us as walking contradictions.
Ambiguity is Life’s game. It can paralyze or overwhelm our being which can hinder us from fully exploiting the opportunity of discovering what life has in store for us-good or bad. Let’s be real here. Nobody assured us of a good life without having to work hard for it. And sometimes, no matter how hard we work for something, we still fail at it. This is reality.
It also pays to be cynical at times-not recommending you do the same. I’d rather be cynical (done in moderation) than have false expectations. I wouldn’t want to witness myself choking on my own fantasy and eventually dying from it. That would be too tragic!)
So, if you fear change, be very afraid. You have all the right to be. Let your fear isolate you from the world so you can find your real strength and discover where your courage lies. And when you are ready, surface with compassion, confidence, wisdom and vitality to face life’s many more ambiguous adventures.